So, I read this article today regarding “adults” and “facebook” and making this site worth your time. Like most 20-somethings, this website came out while I was still at NYU. In my post-collegiate life, one struggles to cope with the addiction that remains as part of a social-environment which, in all honesty, I’m not a part of anymore. I don’t live in the dorms, attend classes, or go to club events. I work full-time. I’ve assumed some responsibility which didn’t exist in college.
One thing however, remains the same. That is the severe addiction to Facebook.
Why oh why? Is it the chronic newsfeed that tells me what everyone is up to? Or the status message on the right-hand toolbar that updates me on my “friend”s moods? Or perhaps playing Scrabble with my roommate across town while we sit at our desks at work?
The part that bothers me though is that I find its become extraordinarily competitive. Which friend is the most in-touch? How many people are going to Molly’s party? Wow, she just commented on Sarah’s page, she and her must still be close friends. Why aren’t I Sarah’s close friend? Tim just got a new job- how did he manage to land that gig with that degree? You subconsciously start to qualify yourself based on the actions of others which as so conveniently and constantly fed to you by your home screen newsfeed. Of course, you could hide it. But its like a gory train wreck, you have to know what’s happening.
It becomes this passive aggressive way to compete, stalk people, and assess your own value. I wish I could just say no!
Until then… we all exist in internet glass houses with everyone else watching and weighing in on our lives.